Do you want to want intimacy again?
You found him. Your person. Your soulmate.
He's everything you dreamed of - kind, loyal, the man you can't imagine your life without. When you look at him, you see your future: growing old together, weathering life's storms side by side, building the beautiful life you always envisioned.
And yet... there's this wall.
This invisible barrier that stands between you and the kind of love you know you're both capable of.
Your relationship checks every box - he's supportive, he's present, he's committed. You have the house, the partnership, maybe the kids. From the outside, it looks perfect. It IS perfect.
Except for this one devastating piece that's missing.
The piece where your body actually wants him. Where intimacy feels like connection instead of obligation. Where his touch makes you melt instead of tense up.
You love him with your whole heart, but your body tells a different story.
And that disconnect is slowly breaking both of you.
You see it in his eyes when you pull away. You feel it in the space that grows between you on the couch. You know he's wondering what happened to the woman who used to want him, and honestly? So are you.
This isn't about finding a new relationship. This is about reclaiming the one you already have.
You adore your husband. He's your person, your safe harbor, the one you chose to build a life with.
But when he reaches for you, something inside recoils.
You find yourself avoiding his touch, your body tensing when he moves closer, your mind already creating escape routes before intimacy even begins.
You're pulling away from the very person you most want to feel connected to.
And in those quiet moments when you're alone with your thoughts, the questions torment you:
"Why can't I just enjoy being close to him?"
"What happened to the woman who used to crave his touch?" "Am I broken? Am I failing as a wife?" "Will he eventually give up on me?"
Here's what I need you to hear: You are not broken. You are not failing. You are not "wrong."
Your nervous system is simply doing what it was designed to do - protect you from what it perceives as threat, even when that "threat" is love itself.
Your body learned these patterns to keep you safe. But now they're keeping you isolated from the very connection your heart is desperate for.
The ache you feel? The distance that grows a little wider each day? That's not your destiny. It's your nervous system asking for help.
I see you there, lying awake at 2 AM, replaying that moment when you pulled away again.
You've tried everything you can think of.
You've given yourself pep talks in the mirror, whispering "Just be normal tonight. Just let him love you."
You've scheduled date nights, hoping the romance would somehow flip a switch inside you. You've forced smiles during his advances, praying your body would remember how to want him.
You've sat in therapy sessions, dissecting your childhood, your relationship patterns, your "issues"—waiting for that magical breakthrough that would unlock your desire.
You've devoured every book on intimacy, highlighted passages about communication and connection, desperately searching for the secret formula that would make you feel again.
You've told yourself lies that sound like hope: "This is just stress. This is just hormones. This is just a rough patch."
But deep in your gut, you know the truth - this isn't temporary. This isn't something you can think your way through or talk your way out of.
This is your nervous system holding you hostage, keeping you trapped behind walls you didn't even know you'd built.
And here's the part that breaks your heart:
Every failed attempt makes you feel more broken. Every night you can't connect makes the voice in your head louder - "What's wrong with me? Why can't I just be normal?"
The solution isn't in your head. It was never in your head.
It's in rewiring the very system that's been protecting you from the love you're desperate to feel.
It's time to teach your body that love isn't the enemy.
That your husband's touch is an invitation, not a threat. That intimacy is a sanctuary, not a battlefield.
This is your roadmap back to yourself - back to the woman who can receive love without armor, who can surrender without fear, who can feel desire without forcing it.
This isn't another program about communication techniques or bedroom tips. This is the deep, body-level work that I do with my private clients before we even think about desire or passion or technique.
Because here's what I've learned after working with hundreds of women just like you:
You can read every book, master every communication skill, and schedule all the date nights in the world, but if your nervous system doesn't feel safe, your body will keep saying no.
Your body will keep tensing up. Your mind will keep wandering. Your heart will keep building walls. And you'll keep feeling broken when you're not.
This program rewrites the story your nervous system has been telling itself about intimacy. It transforms your body's automatic "protect" response into an authentic "receive" response.
Because when your body finally feels safe to love and be loved, everything else becomes possible.
When your nervous system stops treating your husband like a threat, desire doesn't have to be manufactured, it emerges naturally.
This is where transformation actually begins. In your body. In your nervous system. In the place where safety lives.
This is not your typical approach...
This is not talk therapy that keeps you trapped in your head
You've done enough analyzing. You've dissected your childhood, your patterns, your "issues" until you could write a dissertation on yourself. But here's the truth: you can't think your way into feeling safe. This program works directly with your body's unconscious protection responses, where intimacy blocks actually live and breathe.
This is not another mindset program promising you can "think" your way to desire.
You've already tried positive thinking, affirmations, and willing yourself to feel differently. None of it worked because your nervous system doesn't speak the language of thoughts, it speaks the language of safety. These daily audio trainings teach your body that intimacy is safe, not through words, but through experience.
This is not couples counseling that puts the burden on both of you
This is about YOU. Your nervous system. Your body's response patterns. You don't need your husband to change, participate, or even understand for this to work. The transformation happens within you first and then everything else shifts naturally.
This is not spiritual bypassing or "energy" work
While I respect those approaches, this program is grounded in nervous system science. You'll track specific, measurable changes in how your body responds to touch, closeness, and vulnerability. These aren't abstract concepts; they're biological shifts you can feel and measure.
This is not generic, one-size-fits-all advice
Every woman's nervous system has been shaped by her unique history. While this is a self-guided program, each daily training includes multiple pathways and modifications so you can customize the approach to your specific patterns. Whether you're a freeze type, flee type, fight type, or fawn type; you'll find your exact roadmap.
This is not a quick fix that promises overnight transformation
This is 10 days of systematic rewiring that honors your body's natural timeline for change. Each daily module builds on the previous, creating new neural pathways through carefully designed experiences that your nervous system can actually integrate. Real change happens in layers, not lightning bolts.
This is not talk therapy that keeps you trapped in your head
You've done enough analyzing. You've dissected your childhood, your patterns, your "issues" until you could write a dissertation on yourself. But here's the truth: you can't think your way into feeling safe. This program works directly with your body's unconscious protection responses, where intimacy blocks actually live and breathe.
This is not another mindset program promising you can "think" your way to desire.
You've already tried positive thinking, affirmations, and willing yourself to feel differently. None of it worked because your nervous system doesn't speak the language of thoughts, it speaks the language of safety. These daily audio trainings teach your body that intimacy is safe, not through words, but through experience.
This is not couples counseling that puts the burden on both of you
This is about YOU. Your nervous system. Your body's response patterns. You don't need your husband to change, participate, or even understand for this to work. The transformation happens within you first and then everything else shifts naturally.
This is not spiritual bypassing or "energy" work
While I respect those approaches, this program is grounded in nervous system science. You'll track specific, measurable changes in how your body responds to touch, closeness, and vulnerability. These aren't abstract concepts; they're biological shifts you can feel and measure.
This is not generic, one-size-fits-all advice
Every woman's nervous system has been shaped by her unique history. While this is a self-guided program, each daily training includes multiple pathways and modifications so you can customize the approach to your specific patterns. Whether you're a freeze type, flee type, fight type, or fawn type; you'll find your exact roadmap.
This is not a quick fix that promises overnight transformation
This is 10 days of systematic rewiring that honors your body's natural timeline for change. Each daily module builds on the previous, creating new neural pathways through carefully designed experiences that your nervous system can actually integrate. Real change happens in layers, not lightning bolts.
What this IS:
Your personal laboratory for nervous system transformation. Ten days of guided exploration where you become the scientist of your own intimacy patterns, discovering exactly what your body needs to feel safe enough to receive love.
When you decide to enroll in The Intimacy Reset, here's what you can expect once inside
Women like you are experiencing breakthroughs they never thought was possible:
(All client names remain anonymous to protect their privacy)
Once you've mastered the tools & processes inside The Intimacy Reset, you’ll…
Finally understand the real reason your body tenses up when your husband reaches for you so you can stop the endless cycle of self-blame and shame, and start addressing what's actually happening in your nervous system. No more wondering "What's wrong with me?" You'll have clarity on exactly why your body responds this way and a clear path forward.
Catch yourself in the moment before you disappear mentally or physically so instead of realizing hours later that you "checked out" again, you'll notice the early signs and have tools to stay present. Picture this: your husband moves closer, you feel that familiar urge to create distance, but this time you pause, breathe, and choose to stay connected.
Experience those moments of genuine warmth and connection you've been missing where his touch actually feels good instead of overwhelming, where you can be fully present in intimate moments instead of mentally planning tomorrow's schedule. You'll remember what it feels like to melt into his embrace rather than brace against it.
Have conversations about intimacy without your throat closing up or your mind going blank so you can actually express what you need, what feels good, and what doesn't, without triggering your fight-or-flight response. Imagine being able to say "I love you, and I need you to start with lighter touch" without it feeling like emotional surgery.
Notice your body softening toward him throughout the day not just during intimate moments, but in small gestures: accepting his hug without stiffening, welcoming his hand on your back while you're cooking, feeling genuine pleasure when he sits close to you on the couch. These micro-moments of connection will start happening naturally.
Feel hopeful about your intimate future together instead of dreading bedtime or feeling anxious when he gives you "that look," you'll start to feel curious, even excited about connection. Not every day will be perfect, but the trajectory will be clearly upward, and you'll have tools to navigate the harder moments.
Trust your own body's wisdom again knowing when you need space versus when you're ready for closeness, understanding your own rhythms and needs without second-guessing yourself constantly. You'll develop an internal compass that guides you toward what genuinely feels good and away from what doesn't.
Create a new normal in your marriage where intimacy feels like a natural extension of your love rather than a duty to perform. Your husband will start to notice the shift in your energy, your presence, your openness. The whole atmosphere of your relationship will begin to feel lighter and more connected.
What's waiting for you inside The Intimacy Reset:
10 Bite-Sized Audio Trainings (15-20 minutes each) Daily wisdom delivered straight to your phone while you're having morning coffee or taking an evening walk. These aren't lectures, they're intimate conversations that quiet the chaos in your mind and gently guide you back into your body. You'll finally understand what's been happening inside you and why, creating that "aha" moment that changes everything.
10 Daily Embodiment Practices (5-10 minutes each) Simple, powerful somatic exercises that speak directly to your nervous system, no thinking required. These practices literally rewire your body's automatic response from "danger, protect yourself" to "it's safe to receive love." Watch as your shoulders start to drop, your breathing deepens, and intimacy begins to feel like coming home instead of going to battle.
Comprehensive Digital Workbook Your personal intimacy laboratory with guided exercises, reflection prompts, and tracking tools that help you become the expert on your own patterns. This isn't busywork, every page is designed to help you decode your unique nervous system and create lasting transformation that extends far beyond these 10 days.
Real-Time Pattern Interrupt Techniques The game-changing tools that let you catch yourself mid-spiral and choose differently. Imagine noticing that familiar tensing sensation when your husband reaches for you, but this time having a simple technique that lets you soften and stay present instead of pulling away. These tools work in the moment when you need them most.
Body Mapping & Release Exercises Discover exactly where tension lives in your body and learn gentle techniques to release it. You'll pinpoint your personal "no" zones and transform them into neutral or even "yes" spaces. Your body will literally start to feel different - lighter, more open, more alive.
Boundary Setting Frameworks Learn to create internal safety so that intimacy feels like invitation, not invasion. These frameworks teach you how to honor your needs while staying connected, how to say "not right now" without pushing love away, and how to create the conditions where your body naturally says "yes."
7-Day Integration Action Plan Your roadmap for the week immediately following the program, designed to lock in your gains and prevent old patterns from creeping back in. This bridges the gap between program completion and lasting transformation, ensuring the shifts you've made become your new normal.
Your Investment: $97
Hi I'm Carrie
And I know this pain intimately
Not just as a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience helping women heal their deepest intimacy wounds, but as a woman who once stood exactly where you are now.
I remember lying in bed next to my husband of 21 years, loving him with my whole heart but feeling completely disconnected from my body. I remember the shame of tensing up when he reached for me, the confusion of wanting connection but creating distance, the heartbreak of feeling like I was failing at the most important relationship in my life.
My own journey from avoidant attachment and intimacy blocks to genuine connection became my greatest teacher.
It taught me that all the therapy training in the world, my extensive work in depth psychology, couples therapy, nervous system regulation, and attachment theory was only part of the picture.
The missing piece was understanding that transformation doesn't happen in your mind. It happens in your body.
That's why I created the Safe to Love Method™ a revolutionary approach that bypasses the endless analyzing and goes straight to the source: your nervous system.
After walking hundreds of women through this exact transformation, I've witnessed miracle after miracle: bodies that once braced against love learning to soften and receive it. Marriages that felt doomed discovering new depths of connection. Women who thought they were broken realizing they were simply protected.
As both your guide and a fellow traveler on this path, I bring not just clinical expertise but the hard-won wisdom of someone who's been in the trenches of her own intimacy healing.
Because here's what I know for certain: The woman who can fully receive love is already inside you. She's just waiting for her nervous system to feel safe enough to emerge.
And I'm here to help you find her.
The Intimacy Reset is designed as a self-guided program that you can work through at your own pace. However, I understand that sometimes you need personalized guidance for your unique situation.
That's why I offer an optional Intimacy Breakthrough Session - a private 60-minute call where we'll dive deep into your specific patterns, triggers, and blocks. During this session, I'll help you customize the Reset exercises for your nervous system and create a personalized protocol for your transformation.
You'll have the opportunity to add this breakthrough session at a special rate when you complete your Reset purchase. Many women find this personal guidance accelerates their results and provides clarity on their specific blocks that the general program might not address.
Absolutely not. While the program is designed as 10 consecutive days of content, the most important thing is honoring your nervous system's natural pacing for change.
Some women move through one day's material every day. Others need 2-3 days to fully integrate each lesson before moving forward. Some circle back to earlier days when they need reinforcement.
Your nervous system knows what it needs. If a particular day's content brings up big emotions or sensations, take extra time with it. If you need to pause the program for a few days to integrate, that's perfect. If you want to repeat certain exercises multiple times, trust that instinct.
The goal isn't to rush through the material, it's to create lasting transformation. That happens when we honor your body's wisdom about timing and pacing, not when we force it into an arbitrary timeline.
If traditional therapy, self-help books, or other approaches haven't created lasting change, it's likely because they were working at the wrong level - trying to think or talk your way through what is essentially a nervous system issue.
This program works directly with your body's automatic responses, not your conscious mind. Many women who felt "hopeless" after years of other approaches find that nervous system work creates shifts where nothing else could.
The approach is completely different from what you've likely tried before, which is often why it works when other methods haven't.
While the program absolutely addresses physical intimacy challenges, it goes much deeper. The nervous system patterns that block physical connection are often the same ones that create emotional distance, difficulty with vulnerability, and challenges receiving love in any form.
You'll likely notice shifts in your ability to have deeper conversations, accept compliments, receive support, and feel emotionally safe with your husband, not just changes in physical intimacy.
The program is designed to meet you where you are, but I understand that some women discover they need additional support for complex trauma or deeper patterns.
If during the program you realize you need more intensive work, I offer several options to support your continued journey:
A 6-week intensive program that builds on the Reset foundations with deeper nervous system rewiring work
Longer-term packages (4-6 months) for women who want sustained support and accountability through their transformation
A specialized group program exclusively for women dealing with these specific intimacy dynamics, where you can heal alongside others who truly understand your experience
The Intimacy Reset often serves as an excellent foundation for this deeper work, helping you identify exactly what additional support might be most helpful for your unique situation. Should you choose to add on your optional breakthrough session, we can also discuss which path forward would best serve your transformation goals .
Each day includes a 15-20 minute audio training and a 5-10 minute embodiment practice. Most women spend about 20-30 minutes total per day, though you may want additional time for journaling or reflection.
The practices are designed to fit into your real life so you can listen to the audios while walking, driving, or during your morning coffee. The embodiment practices can be done anywhere you have a few minutes of privacy.
There's no "falling behind" in nervous system work. If you miss a day, simply pick up where you left off when you're ready. The program will be available to you indefinitely, so you can revisit any day's content as often as needed.
Some women find they need to repeat certain days multiple times before moving forward. Others come back to specific exercises months later when they need a refresher. Trust your instincts about what your nervous system needs.
Nervous system work is ongoing. I continue to have my own practice.
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