For the Woman Who Loves Her Husband but Feels Miles Away Lying Right Beside Him
A 4-Month, Application-Only Program to Rewire Your Body for Safety, Desire, and Real Closeness Again
For the Woman Who Loves Her Husband but Feels Miles Away Lying Right Beside Him
A 4-Month, Application-Only Program to Rewire Your Body for Safety, Desire, and Real Closeness Again
Right now, you’re lying next to a good man… but it feels like there’s a wall between you.
You love him.
You’ve built a life together.
But your body tenses when he touches you.
Conversations feel flat.
Intimacy is something you avoid, even though you miss it more than you can say.
You’re not cold. You’re not broken.
Your nervous system just doesn’t feel safe letting love in.
It shows up in moments you’ve never dared to say out loud:
He leans in to kiss your neck, and your throat tightens before you even think.
You go through the motions in bed while mentally ticking off tomorrow’s to-do list.
You walk beside him, nodding at his words, but can’t remember a thing he said.
You’ve asked yourself:
“What’s wrong with me?”
“Why can’t I just enjoy him?”
Here’s the truth: nothing is wrong with you.
Your body learned long ago that closeness is dangerous and it’s still running that program, even in the safe, loving marriage you want to keep.
When Your Body Feels Safe In Love
His hand finds the small of your back, and instead of tensing, you instinctively lean into him.
You’re laughing so hard at his story that you forget the laundry, the emails, even where you are.
You kiss him because you crave the taste of him, not because it’s on the calendar.
You watch your kids play and feel warmth rush through your chest, no trace of that quiet ache from going through the motions.
Why Nothing Else Has Worked & Why This Will
You’ve tried therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts.
You’ve learned why you pull away. You can name the patterns.
And yet, the moment he reaches for you, your body still flinches.
Because the root of this problem isn’t in your mind; it’s in your nervous system.
And no amount of “talking it through” can convince your body to feel safe in love.
That’s why my approach doesn’t start with your thoughts. It starts with your biology, where the reflex actually lives.
The Missing Piece No One Taught You About Intimacy
Most women are told intimacy struggles are about attraction, communication, or “working on the relationship.”
But here’s the truth: your nervous system makes that decision before you do.
It’s your body’s built-in safety scanner, always asking: Am I safe?
If past experiences taught it that closeness equals danger, even emotional danger like rejection, disappointment, or feeling “too much”, your body will trigger pull-away reflexes before your mind can stop it.
That’s why you can love your husband, want connection, and still tense, freeze, or mentally check out the second things get close.
This isn’t willpower. It’s wiring.
Until you retrain your nervous system to recognize love as safe, every touch will feel like something to endure instead of something to enjoy.
AND THAT'S EXACTLY WHY I CREATED
RETURNING TO LOVE
The only 4-month, application-only group experience that rewires intimacy at the root - your nervous system - so connection stops feeling like something you brace against and starts feeling like something you crave.
You’ve talked about the problem. You’ve analyzed it. You’ve read all the books.
Now it’s time to retrain your body to feel safe in love, so you can:
Melt into his touch without a single ounce of bracing.
Laugh at his jokes because you’re truly there with him.
Reach for intimacy because you want him, not because it’s on the calendar.
This isn’t therapy.
It’s trauma-informed, body-based work for women who love their husbands but are done living behind walls they never meant to build.
Hear from some of my clients who've experienced the power of my approach to removing avoidance and feeling the intimacy they want to feel
The 'stress and anxiety' she had in anticipation of closeness vanished.
'Cuddling again' after years of no touch is a small shift with a profound impact.
All she really wanted was to 'want to want intimacy' and she has it now w/o the fear.
Having the intimacy back has been 'life changing' for her and her marriage.
Having her supportive husband on board made navigating this work easier & has changed the way they connect.
For the first time she sees it's 'possible' to feel safe w/ her husband.
Hear from some of my clients who've experienced the power of my approach to removing avoidance and feeling the intimacy they want to feel
The 'stress and anxiety' she had in anticipation of closeness vanished.
'Cuddling again' after years of no touch is a small shift with a profound impact.
All she really wanted was to 'want to want intimacy' and she has it now w/o the fear.
Having the intimacy back has been 'life changing' for her and her marriage.
Having her supportive husband on board made navigating this work easier & has changed the way they connect.
For the first time she sees it's 'possible' to feel safe w/ her husband.
The Safe to Love Method™
My 5-stage process to retrain your body to trust love again so safety, desire, and closeness become your new normal.
Stage 1: Spot the Pull-Away Moment
Pinpoint the split-second your body says “no” - the throat tightening, the chest constricting, the mental checkout. Once you can see it as it happens, you can change it.
Stage 2: Rebuild Real Safety
Through gentle, body-based exercises, we teach your nervous system that closeness isn’t a threat. You’ll feel the shift in your body as it stops bracing and starts relaxing into connection.
Stage 3: Create New Responses
Moments that once triggered shutdown will feel safe, because you’ll have simple, instinctive ways to stay present.
Stage 4: Heal Together
Let your partner’s presence soothe you instead of trigger you. This is where emotional labor stops being a solo job.
Stage 5: Anchor Safety & Desire
Once safety is in place, we lock it in with moments of joy, play, and intimacy so it lasts. This isn’t about “checking intimacy off the list”, it’s about wanting it, enjoying it, and letting it be easy.
This isn't about 'thinking' your way back into closeness.
If you’ve been trying to logic your way into desire, you’ve been solving the wrong problem. This work rewires the place where real change happens your body.
Your nervous system can learn safety and desire just like it learned to pull away, but it only changes with consistent practice. Let’s get you started.
Psychotherapist, Marriage Therapist, Intimacy Coach
Hi, I'm Your Carrie!
And you're in the right place.
For 25 years, I’ve helped thousands of women heal the exact emotional blocks, intimacy patterns, and protective walls you’re facing right now.
I’m not here to offer surface-level advice or mindset hacks.
My work is rooted in the science of real, lasting change through the nervous system, attachment healing, and body-based transformation.
After completing my graduate training at NYU, I spent 15 years immersed in depth psychology, couples therapy, and trauma-informed practices because I knew traditional talk therapy wasn’t enough.
Not for me.
Not for the women I serve.
What I teach now is what I wish I’d had when I was struggling in my own marriage.
Why Trust Me?
Because I Am You.
Twenty years ago, I was exactly where you are
Married to an incredible man kind, present, emotionally generous.
But slowly, without realizing it… I started pulling away.
I rejected his emotional support.
I micromanaged his attempts to help.
I couldn’t receive his love, no matter how much I wanted to.
And he felt it. He felt me slipping.
He thought he’d married a woman who was strong and self-sufficient and I was.
But what I didn’t know then was that I had no idea how to be vulnerable.
I didn’t trust that anyone could truly be there for me.
So I did what I knew:
I stayed in control.
I met my own needs.
And I called that strength.
I spent years in therapy trying to fix it.
But nothing truly changed because I wasn’t addressing the real problem.
The real problem wasn’t in my mind.
It was in my body.
His love wasn’t the threat.
But to my nervous system, closeness still meant danger: Loss of control. Disappointment. Being too much.
It wasn’t until I discovered nervous system work that everything shifted.
The walls softened.
The resistance faded.
And for the first time… I could actually let him in.
Today, after 21 years of marriage, we’re more connected, playful, and emotionally alive than ever.
Not because we’re perfect.
But because I finally feel safe in love and safe in my own body.
That’s the work I do now.
That’s the journey I’ll guide you through inside Returning to Love.
Because no insight, mindset, or communication tool can help if your body still says “this isn’t safe.”
If your mind is ready for closeness, but your body keeps pulling back. this is the work that changes everything.
And I would be honored to walk that path with you.
What's included inside Returning to Love
A 4-month, high-touch, application-only group program for women who love their husbands, but feel disconnected in their bodies and relationships.
Returning to Love Curriculum
Step-by-step trainings to rewire your body’s relationship to love
(Value: $5,000)
Weekly Live Coaching Calls
High-touch support to apply the tools to your real marriage
(Value: $12,000)
Exclusive Access to Live Trainings
Bonus workshops during your program, as well as programs inside my product suite (Value: $1,500)
Private Curated Community
Off-social-media space for deep support in between group calls.
(Value: $1,500)
Regulation Resource Library
On-demand nervous system tools
(Priceless)
Lifetime Access
Revisit the work as you grow
(Value: Truly priceless)
Partner Prompts + Private Modules
Optional tools for shared connection with your partner
(Priceless)
When you join Returning to Love, you’re not just buying a program - you’re committing to four months of high-touch, body-based intimacy work designed to change how you experience your marriage forever.
Your investment: $1,250/month for 4 months, or $4,500 pay-in-full (save 10%).
This is application-only so every woman inside is a true fit for the depth of this work and the sacredness of the space.
Once you apply, I’ll personally reach out within 24 hours to schedule your complimentary consultation. We’ll meet face-to-face, answer your questions, and confirm if this is the exact fit you’ve been searching for.
If you’ve read this far, you already know something needs to change and waiting will only make the wall between you higher.
Let this be the moment you choose closeness over distance.
Apply now.
Take a look inside...
I filmed a short walkthrough so you can see exactly what’s waiting for you the moment you step inside.
Why Traditional Therapy Won’t Fix This
I’ve been trained in traditional talk therapy for over 25 years and here’s the truth:
It won’t heal what’s happening in your marriage.
Because talk therapy is built to help you understand your patterns not change them where they actually live.
You can spend months (or years) unpacking why you’re hyper-independent, why vulnerability feels unsafe, why you tense when your husband touches you.
You’ll walk out with insight, labels, and language for your wounds…
…and still, that night, when he reaches for you, your body will pull away.
Because knowing the story doesn’t change the reflex.
Your mind can “get it,” but your body still believes love isn’t safe.
And your nervous system will win that argument every time.
That’s why this work doesn’t waste time dissecting your triggers.
It teaches your body, in real time, how to stay present, open and connected, even when intimacy used to feel dangerous.
No more white-knuckling your way through closeness.
No more pretending to be “fine” while your body braces for impact.
When your nervous system finally learns that love isn’t a threat, you don’t have to force connection.
You want it.
That’s the difference.
And it’s why this work creates change therapy can’t touch.
That’s exactly why this work exists.
So many women like you have already done the therapy, the couples counseling, the communication exercises and still feel stuck.
Traditional therapy often focuses on insight and understanding. It helps you talk about the problem, maybe even name your patterns, but it doesn’t teach your body how to feel safe in connection.
And that’s the missing piece.
My approach is not just about what you know. It’s about what your body believes.
Inside Returning to Love, we work with your nervous system - the part of you that pulls away, freezes, or shuts down the moment your partner reaches for you.
No amount of talking can override a body that feels unsafe. But when you learn how to rewire those protective patterns, intimacy stops feeling overwhelming and starts feeling natural.
This is practical, embodied, forward-moving work. You’ll learn how to shift your responses in real time, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild trust in your body so you can finally show up in your marriage the way you want to.
And how do you know if it will work?
If you love your husband
If you’ve tried everything else
And you’re still not feeling the way you want to in your marriage
Then this is the missing piece.
You are not broken.
You are just blocked.
And once your body feels safe enough to let love in, everything changes.
The transformation you begin inside Returning to Love doesn’t end when the four months are over.
This work is ongoing. Healing your nervous system, deepening emotional safety, and expanding your capacity for intimacy is not a one-time shift - it’s a lifelong practice.
After the live coaching portion of the program ends, you’ll still have:
Lifetime access to the full curriculum and all workshop replays so you can revisit, deepen, and integrate the work as your life and relationship evolve.
Permanent access to the Regulation Resource Library, your personal toolbox of nervous system resets, embodiment practices, and grounding rituals to return to any time you feel overwhelmed, activated, or disconnected.
Automatic access to future curriculum upgrades so any new trainings, resources, or improvements made to the Returning to Love program will be added to your portal without you needing to lift a finger.
This experience is built to create lasting change. You’ll walk away with tools you can use for a lifetime and a home base to return to again and again as you continue becoming the woman who feels safe, open, and deeply connected in love.
While attending live is ideal, you’ll have the chance to receive real-time coaching, connect with your cohort, and be witnessed in the moment, you won’t miss out on the transformation if you can’t be there live.
Every session is recorded and added to your private portal so you can revisit the coaching, insights, and breakthroughs on your own time.
And connection doesn’t end when the Zoom call does.
You’ll also have access to a private, off-social platform where the conversation continues daily.
Think of it as your personal support circle, available 24/7. Whether you’re celebrating a breakthrough or moving through a tough moment, you’ll have women beside you who understand exactly what you’re navigating.
This isn’t just about showing up once a week.
It’s about being consistently held in a high-touch, emotionally intelligent container that supports your growth from every angle.
The live calls are powerful, but they’re just one part of the immersive, layered support experience inside Returning to Love.
Because Healing in Community Hits Different.
This kind of growth wasn’t meant to happen in isolation.
Inside Returning to Love, you’ll be held in a high-caliber, carefully curated group of women who are walking the same path - devoted to their families, committed to their marriages, and ready to stop pushing love away.
This is a space where you get to be fully seen without judgment, without shame, and without having to explain or perform.
It’s rare in real life to find a circle of women who truly get what you’re navigating:
The numbness when your husband reaches for you
The guilt of turning him away when you don’t know why
The fear that you’re the problem but don’t know how to fix it
Here, you’re no longer the only one carrying that.
In group, your shame begins to melt the moment someone else says, “Me too.”
Your breakthroughs come faster because you’re not just learning from me, you’re learning through witnessing the transformation of others.
And the momentum in group can't be matched in solo work.
This is a space that holds you accountable, calls you forward, and reminds you every single week:
You’re not broken.
You’re not alone.
And you were never meant to do this by yourself.
The collective wisdom, support, and emotional resonance of this container is a level of support even private work can’t replicate.
And truthfully - This is the space I wished I had when I was in the thick of it. It would’ve saved me years of spinning in my own head.
You don’t have to do this alone anymore.
Come do it with women who are all in - just like you.
I hear this all the time and you’re not alone. Most women who join Returning to Love feel nervous about doing this kind of intimate work in a group. They’re accomplished, private, and often carrying a lot of quiet shame around the disconnect in their marriage.
But here’s what happens almost every time:
They realize they’re not the only one.
The very thing they were most afraid to name out loud… is exactly what someone else is experiencing too.
And something powerful happens when you say it in a space that gets it: Shame starts to lose its grip. Because shame thrives in secrecy. But when we shine a gentle light on it it dissolves. It becomes something you can heal, not just hide.
his group is intimate, safe, and carefully curated. You’ll never be forced to share. You’ll never be put on the spot. You’ll be met with compassion, understanding, and women who see you because they are you. This is the place where you finally stop doing it all alone.
And that’s what makes it work.
Your Marriage Doesn’t Need More Time It Needs This Work Now
You’ve been telling yourself you’ll deal with this later.
When the kids are older.
When work slows down.
When life feels less overwhelming.
But here’s the truth:
every month you wait, the wall between you gets higher.
Small pull-aways turn into lasting distance.
And the marriage you’ve worked so hard to build starts feeling more like co-parenting than love.
This won’t fix itself.
It’s not “just a phase.”
You’re here because you do love him and because you don’t want to wake up in five years, look across the dinner table, and realize the distance never closed.
Inside Returning to Love, you’ll get the exact tools, guidance, and support to make your body feel safe with the man you already chose so you can stop surviving your marriage and start living it again.
Apply now. Spots are limited, and the work starts the moment you say yes.
Every month you wait, the pull-away reflex gets more automatic. You don’t have to live with it, but the rewiring starts the moment you do.
If your mind is ready for closeness but your body keeps pulling back, this is the work that changes everything.
You’ve done hard things before. Now it’s time to do the one that will bring you back to the man you already love.
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