For the Woman Who Wants it All in Love
Returning to Love is a 4-month intimate experience that opens your heart and body to deeper connection, passion, play and laughter with your husband so every day, when you look into his eyes, you feel, I’m home
For the Woman Who Wants it All in Love
Returning to Love is a 4-month intimate experience that opens your heart and body to deeper connection, passion, play and laughter with your husband so every day, when you look into his eyes, you feel, I’m home
You’re married to an incredible man. He's kind, steady, devoted.
He dotes on you. He admires you. He’d do anything for you.
You know how lucky you are to have him.
And yet… it feels like there’s a wall between you.
Dinner conversations are mostly about kids’ schedules and what’s for dinner.
When he tells you about his day, you catch yourself zoning out until he finally asks, “Are you even listening?”
At night, he leans in to kiss you, and your body stiffens before you can stop it.
In the bedroom, intimacy feels like a checklist you get through every couple of weeks so you won’t feel guilty, not because you actually crave it.
And here’s the hardest part: deep down, you want more.
You want to be a sexual woman who craves your husband multiple times a week, not out of duty, but out of desire.
You want to unplug from work and your endless to-do list and be fully present at dinner, laughing until your cheeks hurt.
You want to crawl into his arms after a long day, receive his kiss, and feel him holding you as you drift to sleep safe, connected, at peace.
But no matter how much you want it, your body just won’t let you surrender to that level of connection, passion, and play.
You’re not cold. You’re not broken. And there’s nothing “wrong” with you.
What’s really happening is this: on a body level, your nervous system doesn’t feel safe letting love in.
Somewhere along the way, your body learned that closeness meant danger.
Maybe it was childhood, watching your parents’ marriage fall apart and deciding, don’t trust too much or it’ll only end in heartbreak.
Maybe you grew up very independent, carrying responsibilities too big for your little shoulders, learning early on to just take care of things yourself.
Maybe your parents leaned on you more than they should have, or maybe you simply knew deep down you couldn’t rely on them.
Either way, your body concluded: don’t depend on anyone, it’s safer to do it all yourself.
Or maybe it was adulthood; a partner who betrayed you, dismissed you, or made you feel like you were “too much.” And in that moment, your body said: never again.
So it built reflexes to protect you.
It tenses before you even notice.
It checks out in the middle of a kiss.
It shuts you down when you start to feel too close.
And now, even with a good man you love and consciously want intimacy with, your body is still running that old program. It won’t let you get too close, too happy, too in love because on a body level, it associates that much openness with inevitable pain or disappointment.
That’s why there’s always a barrier to how much closeness, passion, and connection you can receive. Not because you don’t want it. But because your body thinks it’s protecting you.
But here’s the thing: you don’t just want a “check the box” marriage.
You want passion. You want depth. You want laughter, play, intimacy at levels you’ve only dreamed of.
And that’s possible, when you shift your nervous system inside this program to finally feel safe enough to receive the love you’re already meant for.
How do we rewire your body for love using The Safe to Love Method™
Once you understand that your nervous system is what’s been holding you back, the next question is: so how do we change it?
That’s where the Safe to Love Method™ comes in; my 5-stage process to retrain your body to trust love again so safety, desire, and closeness become your new normal.
Stage 1: Spot the Pull-Away Moment
Right now, there’s a split second when your body says no, your throat tightens when he kisses your neck, your chest constricts when he reaches for you, your mind drifts off mid-conversation. That’s the exact moment your body checks out.
Inside the program, you’ll learn to recognize those trigger points in real time. And when you can see them as they’re happening, we can begin to shift the association on a body level, so when foreplay starts, instead of shutting down, you actually open up and fully surrender to it.
That’s when intimacy stops feeling like something you endure and starts becoming passionate, connected sex you actually crave regularly, joyfully, with the man you love.
Stage 2: Rebuild Real Safety
Right now, your body interprets intimacy as a threat. That’s why you tense, pull away, or mentally check out even when you want to lean in.
But once you’ve spotted those pull-away moments, we can go deeper shifting the very association your body makes with closeness. Instead of seeing his kiss or touch as danger, your nervous system learns a new truth: love is safe here.
Through gentle, body-based exercises, we open your body in a different way, so that when he reaches for you, your reflex isn’t to brace, but to relax.
That’s when his presence actually becomes soothing. Instead of feeling pressure when he’s near, your body settles. You feel calm, open, and receptive in his arms.
Stage 3: Create New Responses
Right now, the reflex is automatic: he kisses you → you freeze. He touches you → you pull away. He talks to you → your mind drifts.
Inside this work, we rewire those exact trigger points with simple, body-based tools that give you new, instinctive responses.
That’s when intimacy becomes something you can actually stay present for, kissing him and wanting more, feeling his touch and naturally leaning in, listening to him and actually being right there in the moment.
Stage 4: Heal Together
Right now, it feels like all the emotional labor is on you, like you’re carrying the full weight of “fixing” intimacy while he’s left on the outside, unsure what to do.
In this stage, your nervous system learns to experience your partner’s presence as safe and soothing instead of triggering.
That’s when everything shifts: instead of flinching away, you’ll crawl into bed at night and let yourself relax fully in his arms. His presence calms you, steadies you, and draws you closer, so intimacy starts to feel natural again, not forced.
Stage 5: Anchor Safety & Desire
Right now, even when you have a good moment, it feels fragile, like one trigger could send you right back into old patterns.
In this stage, we lock in your body’s new wiring with moments of joy, play, and intimacy. This isn’t about scheduling sex or checking it off a list. It’s about anchoring safety and desire so deeply that intimacy becomes your new normal.
That’s when you find yourself laughing more easily, craving his touch, and reaching for him, not out of duty, but because you actually want him.
When Your Body Feels Safe In Love
His hand finds the small of your back, and instead of tensing, you instinctively lean into him.
You’re laughing so hard at his story that you forget the laundry, the emails, even where you are.
You kiss him because you crave the taste of him, not because it’s on the calendar.
You watch your kids play and feel warmth rush through your chest, no trace of that quiet ache from going through the motions.
Why Nothing Else Has Worked and What You Actually Need
You’ve probably already tried so many things to fix this.
Therapy. Books. Podcasts. Date nights. Vacations. Even new lingerie.
You’ve learned why you pull away.
You can name your patterns.
You’ve scheduled more time together.
You’ve tried to “spice things up.”
And yet, in the moment he reaches for you, your body still flinches.
Here’s why:
The root of this isn’t in your mind.
It isn’t in your calendar.
And it isn’t in “better communication.”
It’s in your body.
Your nervous system is your built-in safety scanner.
It makes the decision before you do. If your body is wired to associate closeness with danger: rejection, disappointment, heartbreak, loss of control, then no amount of talking it through, lighting candles, or booking getaways will change how you feel when he touches you.
That’s why you can love your husband, want connection, and still tense, freeze, or check out the second things get close.
It’s not willpower. It’s wiring.
And until you retrain your nervous system to recognize love as safe, every touch will feel like something to endure instead of something to enjoy.
That’s exactly why I created Returning to Love.
So you can stop wasting time on surface fixes and finally rewire your body at the root, where real intimacy begins.
RETURNING TO LOVE
You’ve talked about the problem. You’ve analyzed it. You’ve tried all the surface fixes.
Now it’s time to go deeper, to retrain your body to feel safe in love.
Returning to Love is the only 4-month, application-only group experience designed to rewire intimacy at the root - your nervous system - so connection stops feeling like something you brace against and starts feeling like something you crave.
This isn’t about more communication tools, more date nights, or another podcast episode.
It’s about teaching your body a brand new way of being in love so you can finally:
Melt into his touch without bracing.
Laugh at his stories because you’re truly present.
Crave intimacy not out of guilt, but out of desire.
If your mind is ready for closeness but your body keeps pulling back, this is the work that changes everything.
Meet Your Guide
Hi, I’m Carrie and if you’ve been struggling with intimacy, you’re in the right place.
Let me be clear:
I’m not just another coach on the internet who “figured out her own marriage” and now teaches tips. And I’m definitely not a guru preaching fluffy advice that doesn’t hold up in the real world.
This is not my hobby. This is my life’s work.
For over 25 years, I’ve been a psychotherapist, marriage therapist, and intimacy coach. I’ve worked with thousands of women and couples on the front lines of real marriages: healing intimacy struggles, dissolving emotional walls, and rebuilding trust where it once felt impossible.
My approach isn’t based on pop-psychology or mindset hacks.
It’s rooted in graduate training at NYU, decades of clinical practice, and the science of nervous system rewiring, attachment healing, and body-based transformation.
But beyond the credentials… your story is also my story.
Over twenty years ago, I married an incredible man who adored me and I still couldn’t let him in. I micromanaged, I pulled away, I rejected his attempts to connect. Therapy gave me insights, but nothing changed because the real problem wasn’t in my mind. It was in my body.
When I discovered nervous system work, everything shifted.
The walls softened.
The resistance faded.
And for the first time, I could actually receive his love.
Now, after 21 years of marriage, we’re more connected, playful, and emotionally alive than ever. Not because we’re perfect, but because I finally feel safe in love and safe in my own body.
That’s the exact journey I’ll guide you through inside Returning to Love.
Because no insight, no communication tip, no “date night” will ever change what’s wired into your body. But when your nervous system feels safe in love? Everything changes.
What's included inside Returning to Love
When you join Returning to Love, you’re stepping into a high-touch, four-month experience designed to rewire your body for safety, desire, and lasting intimacy. Here’s how we make that happen:
Returning to Love Curriculum
A step-by-step portal of trainings you can digest in 20-30 minute chunks, created for your busy life. Each week, you’ll receive clear, actionable practices that retrain your nervous system to feel safe in love, so you experience more closeness with your husband week after week.
Weekly Live Coaching Calls
This is where breakthroughs happen. Every week, you’ll get high-touch support from me as you integrate the tools into your real marriage. You’ll receive my direct coaching and learn from the other women walking this same journey, creating powerful shifts in real time.
Private Curated Community
This isn’t something you can talk about with your mom, your sister, or even your closest friends. But here, you’ll be surrounded by women who get it. A safe, off-social-media space where you’ll feel understood, supported, and celebrated every step of the way.
Regulation Resource Library
Think of this as your nervous system’s toolkit. On-demand audio and video resources you can use anytime you feel yourself shutting down, tensing up, or pulling away, so you have support at your fingertips when you need it most.
Exclusive Access to Live Trainings + Bonus Programs
During your four months, you’ll also receive access to bonus workshops and select programs from my suite, adding depth, variety, and fresh perspective to your healing.
Lifetime Access
Because true intimacy work isn’t just four months, it’s a lifelong practice. You’ll have lifetime access to the curriculum so you can revisit it anytime as you and your marriage continue to grow.
Partner Prompts + Private Modules
Optional but powerful: guided prompts and modules designed to gently bring your husband into this work, so intimacy becomes something you experience together, not something you fix alone.
This isn’t just about joining a program.
This is about choosing to be the kind of woman who gets to experience passion, laughter, and intimacy in her marriage, not just for four months, but for the decades ahead.
The truth is, this kind of love is priceless.
How do you put a dollar amount on laughing again with the man you love, craving his touch, and knowing you’re modeling a vibrant marriage for your children?
But here’s what you’ll invest to step inside:
$4500 pay in full (save 10%)
or
4 payments of $1250 each
Application-only. Limited spots available as I intentionally keep this space small.
Because this isn’t just about information. It’s about high-touch, body-based intimacy work designed to rewire your marriage at the root and that requires a level of sacredness and fit for every woman inside.
Want to see what it’s really like inside? I filmed a short walkthrough so you can get a feel for the program the moment you step in.
That’s exactly why this work exists.
So many women like you have already done the therapy, the couples counseling, the communication exercises and still feel stuck.
Traditional therapy often focuses on insight and understanding. It helps you talk about the problem, maybe even name your patterns, but it doesn’t teach your body how to feel safe in connection.
And that’s the missing piece.
My approach is not just about what you know. It’s about what your body believes.
Inside Returning to Love, we work with your nervous system - the part of you that pulls away, freezes, or shuts down the moment your partner reaches for you.
No amount of talking can override a body that feels unsafe. But when you learn how to rewire those protective patterns, intimacy stops feeling overwhelming and starts feeling natural.
This is practical, embodied, forward-moving work. You’ll learn how to shift your responses in real time, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild trust in your body so you can finally show up in your marriage the way you want to.
And how do you know if it will work?
If you love your husband
If you’ve tried everything else
And you’re still not feeling the way you want to in your marriage
Then this is the missing piece.
You are not broken.
You are just blocked.
And once your body feels safe enough to let love in, everything changes.
The transformation you begin inside Returning to Love doesn’t end when the four months are over.
This work is ongoing. Healing your nervous system, deepening emotional safety, and expanding your capacity for intimacy is not a one-time shift - it’s a lifelong practice.
After the live coaching portion of the program ends, you’ll still have:
Lifetime access to the full curriculum and all workshop replays so you can revisit, deepen, and integrate the work as your life and relationship evolve.
Permanent access to the Regulation Resource Library, your personal toolbox of nervous system resets, embodiment practices, and grounding rituals to return to any time you feel overwhelmed, activated, or disconnected.
Automatic access to future curriculum upgrades so any new trainings, resources, or improvements made to the Returning to Love program will be added to your portal without you needing to lift a finger.
This experience is built to create lasting change. You’ll walk away with tools you can use for a lifetime and a home base to return to again and again as you continue becoming the woman who feels safe, open, and deeply connected in love.
While attending live is ideal, you’ll have the chance to receive real-time coaching, connect with your cohort, and be witnessed in the moment, you won’t miss out on the transformation if you can’t be there live.
Every session is recorded and added to your private portal so you can revisit the coaching, insights, and breakthroughs on your own time.
And connection doesn’t end when the Zoom call does.
You’ll also have access to a private, off-social platform where the conversation continues daily.
Think of it as your personal support circle, available 24/7. Whether you’re celebrating a breakthrough or moving through a tough moment, you’ll have women beside you who understand exactly what you’re navigating.
This isn’t just about showing up once a week.
It’s about being consistently held in a high-touch, emotionally intelligent container that supports your growth from every angle.
The live calls are powerful, but they’re just one part of the immersive, layered support experience inside Returning to Love.
Because Healing in Community Hits Different.
This kind of growth wasn’t meant to happen in isolation.
Inside Returning to Love, you’ll be held in a high-caliber, carefully curated group of women who are walking the same path - devoted to their families, committed to their marriages, and ready to stop pushing love away.
This is a space where you get to be fully seen without judgment, without shame, and without having to explain or perform.
It’s rare in real life to find a circle of women who truly get what you’re navigating:
The numbness when your husband reaches for you
The guilt of turning him away when you don’t know why
The fear that you’re the problem but don’t know how to fix it
Here, you’re no longer the only one carrying that.
In group, your shame begins to melt the moment someone else says, “Me too.”
Your breakthroughs come faster because you’re not just learning from me, you’re learning through witnessing the transformation of others.
And the momentum in group can't be matched in solo work.
This is a space that holds you accountable, calls you forward, and reminds you every single week:
You’re not broken.
You’re not alone.
And you were never meant to do this by yourself.
The collective wisdom, support, and emotional resonance of this container is a level of support even private work can’t replicate.
And truthfully - This is the space I wished I had when I was in the thick of it. It would’ve saved me years of spinning in my own head.
You don’t have to do this alone anymore.
Come do it with women who are all in - just like you.
I hear this all the time and you’re not alone. Most women who join Returning to Love feel nervous about doing this kind of intimate work in a group. They’re accomplished, private, and often carrying a lot of quiet shame around the disconnect in their marriage.
But here’s what happens almost every time:
They realize they’re not the only one.
The very thing they were most afraid to name out loud… is exactly what someone else is experiencing too.
And something powerful happens when you say it in a space that gets it: Shame starts to lose its grip. Because shame thrives in secrecy. But when we shine a gentle light on it it dissolves. It becomes something you can heal, not just hide.
his group is intimate, safe, and carefully curated. You’ll never be forced to share. You’ll never be put on the spot. You’ll be met with compassion, understanding, and women who see you because they are you. This is the place where you finally stop doing it all alone.
And that’s what makes it work.
Your Marriage Doesn’t Need More Time It Needs This Work Now
You’ve been telling yourself you’ll deal with this later.
When work slows down.
When the kids are older.
When life feels less overwhelming.
But every time you wait, the wall between you grows higher.
Every dinner where your mind drifts and he looks at you with sad eyes, wondering if you’re even listening…
Every time he reaches for you in bed and you turn away and he feels rejected by the person who’s supposed to love him most…
Every date night that ends with you both feeling more like roommates than lovers…
Those moments don’t just pass.
They stack up and he feels it.
He feels the distance growing, even if he doesn’t say it out loud.
This isn’t “just a phase.” It won’t fix itself.
And deep down, you don’t want to wake up five years from now, look across the dinner table, and realize the gap between you only widened.
You’re here because you love him.
Because you don’t want him to keep wondering if he’s enough.
Because you want him to feel wanted, desired, chosen, not just tolerated.
And you’re here because you know you’re meant to be more than roommates who co-parent.
You’re meant to be lovers, partners, and playmates - the marriage that makes your kids light up when they see how much Mom and Dad actually love each other.
Most of all, you’re here because you want to be the woman who is fully alive in love, safe in her body, radiant in her marriage, and unafraid to be desired.
That future is waiting for you inside Returning to Love.
Every month you wait, the pull-away reflex gets more automatic.
The rewiring starts the moment you say yes.
If your mind is ready for closeness but your body keeps pulling back, this is the work that changes everything.
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