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Are you married to an incredible man, have the perfect marriage on the outside, but on the inside feel empty?

Oh am I ever!

But first, hear from a few of my clients...

The women who work with me all have one thing in common - they very much want to do what it takes to be present in the love their marriage holds for them. 

(Please note that all client details are disguised and shared anonymously to protect their privacy and confidentiality) 

Client S.B 

She had been highly reactive to her hubby.  Her expectations for him to follow through and complete the task had skyrocketed and when he didn't it triggered her.  Working through all her triggers, neutralizing them and ultimately diffusing them is part of the work with me so that she could finally feel the love in her marriage again.

Client R.B

She was holding so much old trauma that it was blinding her ability to do the work on herself, but also blocking the love in her marriage.  Safety and trust in the relationship with me opened up the feelings of love again with her husband.  Although painful at times, she knew she was doing exactly what she needed to do with me.

Client L.C 

My approach, which is different than any other therapist she's worked with, is different.  She felt the warmth, openness and understanding which is why she could do this work now and had no progress in past therapy.  And in the end, she could settle into and receive the love in her marriage.

It's Time to Finally Let Love In

Your husband is everything you ever wanted—loving, patient, supportive. Yet, why does he feel like a stranger? He reaches out for connection, but you can’t bring yourself to fully meet him there. You’re exhausted from trying, from putting him last, from telling yourself "he’ll be fine."

The truth is, he’s feeling the distance. And every time you reject him, he feels his needs are not being met.  He’s telling you this isn’t the marriage he signed up for, and it’s weighing on your heart.

Every Day You Feel The Distance Growing Between You Just a Little Bit More 

You sit together at dinner, but your mind is miles away—preoccupied with work, kids, and a list of things to do. When he goes in for a simple hug, it feels like too much. Inside, there’s frustration, even irritation, as if his love is too heavy to hold. Why is it so hard to connect? 

You love him, and you know he’s the one. But each time he gets close, something shifts inside your body.  You tense up.  You shrink back. Your mind finds something to do and your body follows.

Why?  Because alarm bells are going off, telling you that something about this is unsafe.  Of course it makes no logical sense because you know him,

But for many women like you; fiercely independent, hyper self-sufficient, perfectionist, driven, Type A

These alarms are the signal in your body that something feels unsafe.  It's your body stuck in fight, flight or freeze.

Because somewhere along the way you learned to lean on control as a way to protect yourself. 

But this same protective mechanism is the very thing that keeps you away from the love in your marriage.

You've tried to ignore it, but it's gotten louder and more uncomfortable.  And it’s not something another book or podcast can solve.  Therapy won't even get to the root of this.  And it's not because this issue is so unique, but because talk therapy isn't set up for this type of work.  So you make a few tweaks, tell yourself you'll be better, but it doesn't stick.   

It's only when you heal your core fears (the ones that are actually underneath the hyper self-sufficiency, fierce independence and perfectionism) and create safety on a body level, you'll be open and free to receive (and feel) the love that's right in front of you.  

Somewhere you learned that it's unsafe to fully surrender to love so you subconsciously keep him at a distance.  

What if I told you it's possible to have the connected marriage you always dreamed of?  The one both you and your hubby want.  

I’ve helped hundreds of women just like you break down emotional walls, remove blocks and heal deep fears to create safety so that you can surrender to the love in your marriage.

You’re next.

I'm next!

Now I know you've tried to address this already....

Maybe you started with talk therapy or even couples counseling, but you didn't really get anywhere.  The problem with talk therapy, for this particular issue, is that it keeps you in your head, which you don't need more of.  And most women and couples who see me after several other therapists say the same thing 'it was just talking and no practical solutions'.  What you need is to get out of your head and into your body and have practical implementable strategies. 

And maybe you've done a few Do It Yourself Programs/Courses, scoured the internet for answers, read a few of self-help books and even listened to podcasts - But the issue here is that these don't go deep enough and they are not tailored to you and your unique needs. 

You've probably tried adding more date nights or weekend getaways, but they just highlight the disconnect.  While you're on the date, you spend more time people watching that talking.  And after a vacay, it's back to the same, which makes the heart ache even more.

Which is why you need something different!

Welcome to Returning to Love  

Your roadmap for breaking down walls healing & releasing blocks and opening up yourself to connection in your marriage so that you can receive, feel and express love with your husband. 

My Story about how I went from blocking my hubby's love to healing my core fears and celebrating 20 years of marriage and being the happiest I've ever been

 

This is the program I wished I had 20 years ago.  I was newly married to an amazing man who was everything I wanted.  Patient, good listener, smart, present, funny, friendly, trusting, adventurous....   

I had been waiting my whole life for someone like this.  Someone who loved me, cared for me and put me first.  Was so attentive.  

The beginning of our relationship was easy.  We got along great.  I felt pretty connected.

But what happened over time, as responsibilities increased, the relationship matured, our family grew and careers took off, my hyper self-suffiency starting running the show.  I couldn't stop it.

I rejected his efforts to be close, to help, to be emotionally supportive.  Sometimes I even felt like he was doing it wrong.  Over time he started to feel neglected.  This was not what he signed up for.

He thought he was getting a wife who was both independent, strong, self-sufficient but who also wanted to be loved, supported. 

I was actually rejecting the healthy form of dependency that you NEED in a marriage.

I was rejecting it because deep down, I didn't trust that anyone could provide it,

What I came to realize, was this was me all along.  I was someone who took care of my own emotional needs. And I got really comfortable with that because it put me in charge. 

I spent years in talk therapy trying to 'fix' myself.  To be honest I didn't really it know what the problem actually was, therefore fixing it was impossible.

Until I discovered the world of Nervous System Regulation and I had my biggest aha moment (s). 

Ohhhh I see what's happening....His closeness, the depth, the support, my dependency on that.....It was triggering an alarm of danger in my body and my body was sending the signal to my mind that was being interpreted as danger.  The danger, or body feelings of un-safety went back to my core fears about fully surrendering, giving in to love, letting go of control. 

And once I started to heal these core fears and wounds and create the safety in my body, I could start to let love in.  I could have a marriage that was connected, loving and alive.        

When you learn to be in the driver's seat of your emotions AND show your body that it's safe despite the stories your mind is feeding you  

You relax and you settle, into safety.  And you stop creating stories that interfere with giving & receiving love 

And your loving relationship with your husband deepens.

Our marriage has never been the same... 

And this is exactly the program I wish I had when I was going through this alone figuring it out by trial and error.

No amount of reading, talking to myself or psychotherapy moved the needle for me or my clients the way an Embodied Practice blending Nervous System Regulation and Attachment Work.

Saving marriages one couple at a time...

My clients refer to me often as they know how difficult it is to find a quality marriage therapist and solo therapist who works on marriage. 

(Please note that all client details are disguised and shared anonymously to protect their privacy and confidentiality) 

Client P.P 

Working in corporate, raising 3 kids and running a busy home, she was unhappy with the state of her marriage.  'I invested in him so he invested in what he knew was important to me'.  This came after she did the work on her blocks; the way her need for control made him feel emasculated, the way her attention for detail made him feel like he was always missing the mark and the way her fatigue after work made him feel ignored and unattractive.

Client A.P

Married for 15 years with 2 kids, this woman came to me because her perfectionism was on steroids and it was hurting her marriage.  Her hubby tried to fit the 'mold' but he wasn't successful.  What she realized was that this was anxiety and it needed to be addressed otherwise she would lose her marriage.

Client L.F 

Desperate to save her marriage, this client came to me with high levels of anxiety and stress.  Running her own business, 2 kids and 3 boards she served on, her time was limited.  A last ditch effort to turn things around, through our work and now her 'marriage is the best it's ever been. I could cry.' She was blocking love without even knowing it and it wasn't intentional.  It was a side effect of her style; type a, perfectionist, go-getter.  

This is for you if 

  • You love your husband, but feel blocked when it comes to intimacy and affection.
  • You find yourself emotionally withdrawn or even numb when he tries to connect with you.
  • The physical and emotional closeness feels overwhelming or even triggering.
  • You avoid deep conversations because they feel too vulnerable.
  • You're afraid that if nothing changes you'll lose the marriage you want and be filled with regret.

I've helped hundreds of clients go from exactly where you're at right now (blocking the love and connection from the man who you know is your soulmate) to being present and feeling the love that's right in front of them in their marriage. 

 

As a psychotherapist practicing for 25 years, I know what works and what doesn’t.  And I will guide you to where you want to go without wasting a moment of your precious time.

And after you master this, you will 

  • Learn how to recognize and respond to your body’s signals so that you can allow love in without fear or hesitation.

  • Gain simple practices to stop your mind from creating false alarms when your husband gets close, so that you can enjoy the deep connection.

  • Develop the capacity to truly lean on him for support—so that you're no longer a one-woman show running the house, the kids your marriage, and your career.  You'll trust him as a competent partner in life.

  • Gain tools for becoming present and receptive in intimate moments, so you can feel pleasure and freedom in intimacy.

  • A new way of experiencing your marriage, by shedding old habits that block closeness, so you can be the partner you want to be.
  • And the smiles in your picture perfect family photos are a genuine reflection of how happy you feel inside and out.

Returning to Love utilizes a 6 Step Framework and my expertly created method The BodyWise™ Method

Inside Returning to Love, you'll be introduced to The BodyWise Method through my 6 step framework.  These steps are sequential, but meant to be repeated.

1. Root cause - Knowing the WHY and the HOW is crucial in preventing recurrence after your done working with me.

2. Awareness - putting triggers & fight-flight reactions on your radar so they can be tracked is necessary to customize the solutions you need.

3. Brain-Body Connection - the reason why you can’t fix this yourself is bc your body is sending signals to your brain that its misreading and creating a story about. We’re changing that here.

4. Process & Release Trapped Emotions - because we all know they build up and have a compound effect. This is why old fights keep coming back up in your marriage.

5. Re-pattern & Rewire - This is the crux of the work. WE’re not just slapping tools on for band aids, we go from long term permanent change in my world.

6. Building Emotional Safety & Self Trust -  This keeps you going in your marriage especially when things get tough.

 

The BodyWise™ Method

A transformative approach designed for the woman who is ready to stop blocking love and start experiencing the deeply connected marriage you've always wanted. This isn’t about changing who you are or sacrificing your independence—it’s about helping you understand why control feels so necessary and giving you the tools to finally let it go without losing yourself.

At its core, the BodyWise™ Method blends nervous system regulation & rewiring, attachment healing & re-patterning, emotional awareness, and practical relational tools to address the root cause of disconnection in your marriage. Here’s how it works:

  1. Understanding Your Patterns

    • You’ll uncover how past experiences have shaped your nervous system’s responses, teaching you to stay in control as a way to feel safe.
    • This work isn’t about judgment—it’s about compassionately recognizing the survival strategies your body has been using to protect you, even when they no longer serve you.

  2. Regulating Your Nervous System

    • Your nervous system is the foundation of your relationships. When it’s stuck in survival mode, love and intimacy feel like risks instead of rewards.
    • Using proven techniques like breathwork, grounding exercises, and interoception practices, you’ll learn how to calm your body, shift out of fight-or-flight mode, and create the safety you need to let love in.

  3. Rewiring Your Responses

    • Old habits like overthinking, avoiding intimacy, or shutting down in conflict will be replaced with healthier patterns that invite connection and vulnerability.
    • You’ll practice small, actionable steps to build trust and intimacy with your husband while still honoring your own needs and boundaries.

  4. Reclaiming Connection

    • This isn’t about surface-level fixes or communication hacks. The BodyWise™ Method goes deeper, helping you rebuild the emotional and physical intimacy that makes your marriage thrive.
    • You’ll stop pushing love away and start creating a partnership that feels supportive, exciting, and deeply fulfilling.

Why It Works
The BodyWise™ Method works because it focuses on the root cause—not just the symptoms. Instead of trying to talk your way into connection or control your way out of conflict, you’ll address the deeper patterns driving your behaviors. By calming your nervous system and rewiring your responses, you’ll experience real, lasting change that impacts not just your marriage but your entire life.

This method has helped hundreds of women break free from the cycles of control, fear, and disconnection—and it can help you too.

This is your roadmap to feeling safe, connected, and loved in your marriage without losing yourself in the process.

Meet Carrie

I'm so glad you are here and decided to take the first step towards getting out of your head and into your body so that you can create your dream marriage with the hubby you have. I want to assure you that you are in good hands with me.  

As a psychotherapist for the past 25 years, I've had the privilege and honor to work with over 1000 women, men and couples who put their trust in me to help them feel better about themselves, their relationships and the life they are living.  

I've dedicated my career to professional development and honing my expertise.  Following graduate school at New York University, I spent 15 years training in depth psychology, Nervous System Regulation, Attachment Healing & Couples Therapy.     

(Pictured is my small, but mighty family - My husband Steven, our daughter Elayna, my mom Jean and our two fur babies Gus and Brooke.) 

It's Time to Finally Face What’s Holding You Back in Love

You’ve known for a while now that something has to change. You love your husband, you know he’s the one, but the distance between you is growing. You feel it, and so does he.

He’s told you, with patience that are starting to run thin, that this isn’t the marriage he signed up for. You’re a team, but he wants more than that. He wants you. And if you’re honest, you want that too.

But here’s the part that’s kept you frozen: Facing this fear feels terrifying. You’ve held back from truly diving into it, fearing what might come up—fearing that flood of emotions you’ve pushed down for so long.

You’ve kept it on the back burner, hoping it would sort itself out. But deep down, you know that if you don’t address this, you risk losing the very thing that matters most to you. And that’s a regret you don’t want to live with.

Why Join a Group When This Feels So Personal?

Perhaps you’re wondering why you’d do this work in a group, especially when you’re so private. You don’t share a lot, particularly about the vulnerable places in your life. Most people would be shocked to know that you feel disconnected in your marriage. They see your life as “perfect.”  

But when you’re in a safe, non-judgmental space with women going through the same struggles, you find relief. A shared space like this allows you to finally let go of the shame, the fear, and the judgment you’ve carried alone.

You’ll see that you’re not the only one feeling this way, that other women who love their husbands just as much are working through the same barriers.

This isn’t about exposing yourself—it’s about freeing yourself. Sharing your struggles releases the shame that’s kept you quiet, and the weight begins to lift.

You’ll realize that being seen and supported by women who understand actually makes this journey faster, deeper, and more effective.

The Power of Healing Together

In this space, you’ll connect with women who, like you, are ready to create extraordinary marriages, reclaim the depth they know is possible, and let go of the parts of themselves that no longer serve them.

Here, you’re not just learning to love your husband more deeply—you’re growing into the woman you know you’re capable of becoming.

Worried about what others will think if you open up? In this space, sharing isn’t just safe—it’s transformative. When you speak your truth, the shame loses its grip.

You won’t be hiding behind it anymore, and you’ll experience the freedom that comes with that release.

This is Your Space to Be Unapologetically You

This is a place where you can let your guard down, fully own who you are, and grow into the woman you want to be—no apologies, no shame, no holding back. This is the space I wish I’d had when I was in your shoes, and I’m honored to offer it to you now.

Are you ready?

Let’s do this together.

I am ready!

What's inside 

 

1. Portal of Workshops with deep dive exercises.  This is where you’ll learn HOW to do the work of getting out of your head, eliminating the spiral thinking & create the safety your body needs to have the marriage you desire with the partner you have. (Valued at $5000)

2. Weekly Live Calls where you connect in real time with other women where you'll be coached on how you're implementing the material.  And you'll keep the momentum and stay consistent with deepening the connection to your hubby and yourself, staying open to receiving love week to week.  (Valued at $12,000)

3. Access to Live Trainings - Free access to all live workshops on deepening your connection I run while you're in the program ($1500)

4. Private Community off of social media so that you can build and strengthen your bond, get support, work through sticky situations with a tribe of women who are on the same path. (Valued $1500)

5. Lifetime Access to the Curriculum - as a lifestyle practice, you'll be able to return to the practice anytime you want a tune up. (Priceless) 

Total Value is $20,000

 

When you decide to join us inside Returning to Love, you'll commit for 4 months.  I've designed it this way so that you can get a complete experience and also benefit from the relationships you'll develop.

I know it can feel like a push-pull when it comes to investing in yourself.  From the time it takes out of your busy life to the financial resources it warrants, these decisions are big ones.  

And I remember every time I embarked on a big piece of work for myself.  I had many conversations with myself and my husband about where I'm going to "find" the time and how I plan to allocate our funds differently so that I could invest in myself and our marriage.  

And every time I took the leap, I've never regretted the decision to better myself, to go deeper, and to grow into the woman I've become today.  

I know it can be scary to tap into the unknown, but I hope you'll give yourself this opportunity for your own development.

And while the total value is $20,000

I'm offering it to you with 2 investment options:

Monthly Payment Plan at $1250/month for 4 months or save 10% by paying in full for 4 months at $4,500 PIF. 

Please note that this program is by application only.  Complete the application below so that we can ensure that it's the perfect fit.  Once I receive and review, I will contact you within 24 hours to set up a complementary consult zoom call so that we can meet face to face.  

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 Payment Plan 

$1250 per month for 4 months

Pay in Full

$4500 (Save 10%)
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And here's what a few more of my clients have had to say about our work

Please note that all client information is disguised and presented anonymously in order to protect their confidentiality.

J.K

This client came to me after realizing her 'marriage was deeply broken and rife with arguments, frustrations, insecurities and infidelities.' Their marriage 'was never a priority and consistently came second or third or worse.'  This client learned how to engage her husband in a way that didn't trigger her or him.  They were able to move through the stress that had built up prior to our work and now live happily together.  

J.C

This client started working with me because she was 'so so very good at masking and pretending to be a model daughter, employee, wife, and mother'.  In her mid 40's she was done with the anxiety and overwhelm always simmering beneath the surface.  She wanted to no longer be the woman who 'looked like they had it all together on the outside, but like they were barely holding it together on the inside.'  In the end, she learned to trust herself, her intuition and manage her anxiety.  J.C now lives happily as the genuine woman she is, in love with her hubby and loving who she is.

A.L

This client came to me because she was "someone who struggled with anxiety and perfectionism her whole life."  Although she tried to handle it on her own, like many of my self-sufficient clients do, she decided it was time to seek help.  Our work helped her 'understand the WHY behind the way I feel and take a curious approach rather than judgemental.' She ended our work with that understanding which led to 'more presence, less anxiety and knowing the tools to sustain healthy relationships and find contentment and joy in life.'

It’s time to stop pretending this will fix itself.
I know you’ve been avoiding this for a long time—telling yourself you’re too busy, too exhausted, or too scared to face what might come up. You’ve put it last on your list because everything else feels more urgent. But deep down, you know the truth: if nothing changes, you’re risking the one thing you swore you’d protect—your marriage.

Imagine looking back and realizing you lost the love of your life, not because you didn’t care, but because you didn’t act. That’s a regret you can’t afford to carry.

But here’s the thing—on the other side of this work isn’t fear. It’s freedom. It’s relief. It’s finally feeling like yourself again. You’ll feel lighter, freer, and more connected than you’ve been in years.

The choice is yours: stay stuck, or take the first step toward the love you’re craving. It’s time. Let’s do this together.

Yes! Let's do this!